Successful on paper, but quietly miserable?
You don’t want to do the same for 20 years…
But leaving somehow feels impossible.
I’m Victor. I help mid-career tech and corporate professionals get out of burnout, and build a real plan to leave, coast, or reshape the career they're in.
You will know if this is you
You'd be the envy of your LinkedIn feed — and you feel like a fraud for being this unhappy
Your pay is incredible, and it's the main reason you're still there.
You already tried the fix: you switched teams, got the raise/promotion, changed companies, but the exhaustion and questions came back in eighteen months.
A part of you is half-hoping for a layoff, so the decision finally gets made for you.
If you read that list and felt caught — keep reading. You're in the right place.
Your cage may not be made of money
You can do the math yourself. You might have already done it and you know your numbers, your burn rate, or roughly when you could walk away.
The spreadsheet isn't the thing standing in your way.
The thing standing in your way is the decision — and the identity you built on top of the job that makes the decision feel like stepping off a cliff.
The same competence that got you here is the exact thing keeping you stuck. You don't need more information. You need an outside voice and a structured way to actually choose.
That's what this is.
Working with me
From Grind to Aligned: 3-Month 1 on 1 Program
Ditch the burn-out. Get clear on what actually matters to you. Build a life you love — calmly, on your own terms.
This is a structured 3-month program run by someone who spent 10+ years inside big tech and corporate, and knows the exact machine you're inside — the RSU vesting schedules, the reorgs, the Sunday scaries, the specific hollowness of shipping something you don't care about. I'm not a guru who read a book about your world. I lived in it. We do three things, in this order.
How the program works:
Phase 1: Stabilize
We get you out of the red. Boundaries, recovery, and permission to stop running on willpower — before we make a single big decision. Nobody thinks clearly while they're drowning.
Phase 2: Get Clear
We untangle your identity from your title, get honest about what you actually want (not what you were told to want), and name the fears out loud so they stop running the show from the shadows.
Phase 3: Integrate
Finally, the strategy: run the real numbers, and build your specific plan to leave, coast, or stay and reshape — with the courage and the accountability to actually execute it.
You are able to continue to pursue what is important for you, with clarity, focus, ease, and grace.
What you will get by the end of the journey…
✔ A decision you own - leave, cost, or stay and reshape
✔ Know the exact steps needed to make it happen
✔ Courage and accountability to actually execute it
✔ Have peace of mind, because you’re no longer postponing your dream
What’s included
8 x 60-minute 1:1 sessions (via Zoom, bi-weekly)
Between session support (via email)
Worksheets and tools/frameworks
Concrete next steps from every session
Is this the right program for you?
This is for you if…
You're exhausted and know something has to change
You want your own clarity, not generic advice
You're willing to look honestly at what isn't working
You are willing to take authentic actions
You want a partner to work with, not someone to tell you what to do
This is not for you if…
You want a quick fix or a one size fits all 5-step formula
You are not ready to invest real time, reflection, and work
You are looking for therapy or mental health treatment/support.
Investment: $4,000. Payment plan available: $2,100 × 2
Have questions?
Book a free 45-minute discovery call to see if we’re a good fit to work together.
No commitment. No hard sell. Just a conversation.
About Me
Hello, I’m Victor Xiao
I know what it's like to be good at your job and still feel like something is deeply wrong.
I am based in Seattle, Washington, and I’m originally from Shanghai, China. As a first generation immmigrant, I spent years in the corporate and big tech, hitting milestones, climbing the ladder — and burned out in the process. Exhausted, unmotivated, and quietly questioning every day whether this was really what my life was supposed to look like.
Then I realized I wasn't just tired of my job which looks great on paper. I was tired of the version of myself I had become, trying to keep up with it and meet others’ expectations. So I made a choice — not to blow everything up, but to finally take control and build a life that was actually mine.
That has led me to coaching: I've been there — and I don't want you to stay there any longer than you have to.
Today I work with burned-out professionals who are ready to ditch the grind and start building a life they love. My approach is grounded, honest, and calm — we go beneath the surface to what truly matters to you, and we build from there.
You don't need someone to tell you what to do. You need someone who will help you figure out what you actually want — and trust yourself enough to go after it.
Not sure what you actually want? Most burned-out professionals aren't lazy or lost. They're just carrying a version of success that was never really theirs. I built a free, 5-minute assessment which will help you get honest about where you are — and what your heart might actually be asking for.